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Religion and tribal instincts

Some time last autumn, I was chatting with an acquaintance about toxic beliefs from childhood. He said he was surprised that many people avoid changing such beliefs, sometimes finding excuses, sometimes even reacting with hostility if they disagree with others’ opinions. I said (approximately): “It’s because we bond to our families with such beliefs, and…

Just a small everyday confusion

We had a young construction worker over these days, who did some stuff around our house. A couple of days back, my partner and I made a trip to the town to get some supplies. Soon after we came back, the construction guy came and asked me in a hushed tone if my partner was…

Lessons from the past

Working with some young clients lately got me thinking about myself in the same age, when I just arrived to a big city to study. More and more often these days, I see those memories as if looking at somebody else rather than identifying with my younger self and seeing things through her eyes. In…

Therapy with clients from healthy families

While more than 90% of people’s emotional problems appear to stem from childhood (or are at least enhanced by early family), from time to time it’s an interesting experience to work with people who come from healthy, caring and rather mature families. (Some people who claim so might be in denial, of course, but during…

Stray thoughts about spirituality

From time to time, I meet people who proudly proclaim that they don’t want to be around anyone who is not “spiritual enough”. Recently that got me thinking: but what does it mean? For some people, it might mean following a certain religion, or any religion. For some, it might mean believing in angels, or…

Hello world!

Welcome! My name is Kosjenka. I’m a special education teacher and a  psychotherapist. I am fascinated with human behavior, especially self-sabotage and its origins. For me it’s a kind of detective work. Do you notice that you act childish when angry, afraid or in love? Or do you notice other people acting childish from time…